What makes it beautiful

What are we doing as people? Are we really listening to those around us? Do we even truly see someone who is right in front of us? Are things really what they seem? Work, social media, possessions and looking good among other things have consumed many of our lives. Maybe not 24/7 for some but I have felt, lived and observed our lives consumed by so many things portrayed/perceived as so important. In my perfect world there would be nothing more important than the person or people around you. And I’m not just talking about family. I’m talking about your neighbor. The person in line in front of you. Anyone who crosses your path. But again that’s my perfect world which I don’t always live in personally. I’ve caught myself rushing to work and seeing someone on the side of the road obviously needing help. But I don’t stop. I continue on with my day as if my being on time for work or whatever I’m doing is more important than simply taking the time to help or maybe just check on another human being. This used to make me angry. Now I just feel sad. In some aspects the disconnect grows and grows. Other times I’m truly amazed by the consecutiveness surrounding me. It’s not my place to judge or dictate how ones life is lived. But I do feel it is all of our duties as human beings to question ourselves as well as others. To really take stock of what’s going on within and around us. A sense of awareness coupled with connection. Life is a beautiful thing and we all get to choose what makes it beautiful. I invite us all to choose willingly, considerately and knowingly.

Catching Flies

Guilt and vulnerability. Two words and feelings that usually do not go together. In my own life guilt has consumed me. It has ended relationships. It has hurt those that I love. Most of all it has hurt myself and shaped the way I interact with people daily. Guilt does not always mean that you have actually done something wrong or hurtful. For me guilt comes from not feeling adequate. Not being able to meet someone’s needs or wants. Not being able to relate or understand someone’s feelings. Guilt has many forms. I find when I come from a place of guilt I become more defensive and close minded. The guilt does not allow me to be vulnerable. When I am vulnerable I can get my feelings/point across in a respectful and positive manner. I can actually connect with people. When it comes from a place of guilt… look out!

There is a saying, “you can catch more flies with honey than vinegar”. My wife always laughs at me and wonders where the heck I learned all these old sayings. I guess I was just lucky enough to encounter some wise old souls in my lifetime.

Treating people with respect and being vulnerable really does create a positive interaction the majority of the time. We can disagree or have a different point of view without feeling guilty. We can still relate and connect even though we do not see eye to eye. There was a quote I found from The Huffington Post website from a blog written by Charlie Maffei. (I will post the link below at the end) The quote goes: “Being nice to nice people is great, but being nice to those who are not nice to you is how the world becomes better. We should not want to defeat or humiliate those we don’t agree with but to win their friendship and understanding.”      I know from experience that it is not always easy. Some people have some outrageous point of views. But that is the beauty of being human. We all have a different experience of life and life’s little situations. We do not always have to agree with everything and everyone. But we should at least be open and vulnerable enough to listen and try to understand. We can simply take some thing positive or what works for us from a conversation or article. Then simply just let what you don’t agree with or understand go. I feel if we just tried to understand other people’s views rather than argue we would learn a lot more about them and ourselves. So I invite you to really listen and be vulnerable next time you have a conversation, read or watch something. You may not succeed every time and that is okay. It is about trying, being aware and recognizing what guilt and vulnerability mean to you.

Here is the link to the Huffington Post article: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/charlie-maffei/you-can-catch-more-flies-_b_1676353.html

I do not agree with or relate to everything in the article in the link above. But I did take away something positive and it was very enlightening to see a different point of view. Just as you may not agree with or relate to everything I write about. But my hope is that something you read or experience sparks you to find peace in your guilt and comfort in your vulnerability.

-Jeff

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Once in a blue moon

 

Last day for the “Giveaway”

I have an idea. What would happen if I had a giveaway that did not require people to sign up, like or follow a blog. A giveaway with no strings attached. A giveaway just for the sake of giving. Well here we go…

I will donate $100.00 US to a charity or cause of your choice in your name (if the option is available). This will be limited to one person. All I ask from you is a brief explanation why or simply be yourself and send me something truly inspirational. This “giveaway” opportunity starts now and will last until Thursday July 4th 2013. Please no spam or soliciting. You do not need to follow, be a current follower, like anything or comment on anything to win. Just simply email what I have stated above. The winner will be mentioned in my blog and the winning email content will be published to my blog (your full name and email address will not be published unless requested). By sending me an email you are agreeing to these terms. No other company or website is affiliated with this giveaway or liable in anyway.

Email: trustyourselfblog.com@gmail.com

Can’t wait to be inspired by all of you 🙂

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“Giveaway”

I have an idea. What would happen if I had a giveaway that did not require people to sign up, like or follow a blog. A giveaway with no strings attached. A giveaway just for the sake of giving. Well here we go…

I will donate $100.00 US to a charity or cause of your choice in your name (if the option is available). This will be limited to one person. All I ask from you is a brief explanation why or simply be yourself and send me something truly inspirational. This “giveaway” opportunity starts now and will last until Thursday July 4th 2013. Please no spam or soliciting. You do not need to follow, be a current follower, like anything or comment on anything to win. Just simply email what I have stated above. The winner will be mentioned in my blog and the winning email content will be published to my blog (your full name and email address will not be published unless requested). By sending me an email you are agreeing to these terms. No other company or website is affiliated with this giveaway or liable in anyway.

Email: trustyourselfblog.com@gmail.com

Can’t wait to be inspired by all of you 🙂

20130628-160837.jpg

“Giveaway”

I have an idea. What would happen if I had a giveaway that did not require people to sign up, like or follow a blog. A giveaway with no strings attached. A giveaway just for the sake of giving. Well here we go…

I will donate $100.00 US to a charity or cause of your choice in your name (if the option is available). This will be limited to one person. All I ask from you is a brief explanation why or simply be yourself and send me something truly inspirational. This “giveaway” opportunity starts now and will last until Thursday July 4th 2013. Please no spam or soliciting. You do not need to follow, be a current follower, like anything or comment on anything to win. Just simply email what I have stated above. The winner will be mentioned in my blog and the winning email content will be published to my blog (your full name and email address will not be published unless requested). By sending me an email you are agreeing to these terms. No other company or website is affiliated with this giveaway or liable in anyway.

Email: trustyourselfblog.com@gmail.com

Can’t wait to be inspired by all of you 🙂

20130628-160837.jpg

“Giveaway”

I have an idea. What would happen if I had a giveaway that did not require people to sign up, like or follow a blog. A giveaway with no strings attached. A giveaway just for the sake of giving. Well here we go…

I will donate $100.00 US to a charity or cause of your choice in your name (if the option is available). This will be limited to one person. All I ask from you is a brief explanation why or simply be yourself and send me something truly inspirational. This “giveaway” opportunity starts now and will last until Thursday July 4th 2013. Please no spam or soliciting. You do not need to follow, be a current follower, like anything or comment on anything to win. Just simply email what I have stated above. The winner will be mentioned in my blog and the winning email content will be published to my blog (your full name and email address will not be published unless requested). By sending me an email you are agreeing to these terms. No other company or website is affiliated with this giveaway or liable in anyway.

Email: trustyourselfblog.com@gmail.com

Can’t wait to be inspired by all of you 🙂

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