Catching Flies

Guilt and vulnerability. Two words and feelings that usually do not go together. In my own life guilt has consumed me. It has ended relationships. It has hurt those that I love. Most of all it has hurt myself and shaped the way I interact with people daily. Guilt does not always mean that you have actually done something wrong or hurtful. For me guilt comes from not feeling adequate. Not being able to meet someone’s needs or wants. Not being able to relate or understand someone’s feelings. Guilt has many forms. I find when I come from a place of guilt I become more defensive and close minded. The guilt does not allow me to be vulnerable. When I am vulnerable I can get my feelings/point across in a respectful and positive manner. I can actually connect with people. When it comes from a place of guilt… look out!

There is a saying, “you can catch more flies with honey than vinegar”. My wife always laughs at me and wonders where the heck I learned all these old sayings. I guess I was just lucky enough to encounter some wise old souls in my lifetime.

Treating people with respect and being vulnerable really does create a positive interaction the majority of the time. We can disagree or have a different point of view without feeling guilty. We can still relate and connect even though we do not see eye to eye. There was a quote I found from The Huffington Post website from a blog written by Charlie Maffei. (I will post the link below at the end) The quote goes: “Being nice to nice people is great, but being nice to those who are not nice to you is how the world becomes better. We should not want to defeat or humiliate those we don’t agree with but to win their friendship and understanding.”      I know from experience that it is not always easy. Some people have some outrageous point of views. But that is the beauty of being human. We all have a different experience of life and life’s little situations. We do not always have to agree with everything and everyone. But we should at least be open and vulnerable enough to listen and try to understand. We can simply take some thing positive or what works for us from a conversation or article. Then simply just let what you don’t agree with or understand go. I feel if we just tried to understand other people’s views rather than argue we would learn a lot more about them and ourselves. So I invite you to really listen and be vulnerable next time you have a conversation, read or watch something. You may not succeed every time and that is okay. It is about trying, being aware and recognizing what guilt and vulnerability mean to you.

Here is the link to the Huffington Post article: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/charlie-maffei/you-can-catch-more-flies-_b_1676353.html

I do not agree with or relate to everything in the article in the link above. But I did take away something positive and it was very enlightening to see a different point of view. Just as you may not agree with or relate to everything I write about. But my hope is that something you read or experience sparks you to find peace in your guilt and comfort in your vulnerability.

-Jeff

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Bunneah

Here is the email from Bunneah Munkeah of bunneahmunkeah.wordpress.com:

If it isn’t too late, I would be really impressed to see you drop off a donation of needed items to a local homeless youth or domestic abuse shelter. You can use my name Bunneah Munkeah or not. It’s not about credit. If you take pics I will share them with my blog (if you want) It’s about giving back to the world. I’m a lifelong community servant and we can certainly talk more but first…. FIREWORKS!!!!

Have a beautiful extended weekend!
Bunneah

A donation of $100.00 was donated to the Leroy Haynes Center.
Just so you know I am looking into volunteering opportunities and other ways I can physically help. I figured this was a good start.

To donate go to http://www.leroyhaynes.org

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Christine

Here is the email from Christine of projectlighttolife.wordpress.com:

Hi,

I hope I’m not too late with my email, as I saw the deadline for your giveaway is July 4th and since I just found your wonderful blog post & blog, it looks like I’ve got eight minutes to spare until the deadline comes to a close. First off, I’d like to say that I think what you are doing with this giveaway is absolutely wonderful; it is so nice to see others giving back in such a way and expecting nothing in return, except maybe that we pay it forward sometime. I hope to do something similar through my blog’s mission (doing kind deeds for others while crossing items off my own bucket list) and found your post so inspiring.

I would love it if a donation could be sent to the American Heart Association. I have lost many family members and people I love to heart disease and it would mean a lot to see money going toward that cause, so that maybe someday others won’t loose family members and loved ones to this disease. I will never forget how in elementary school when all the kids participated in Jump Rope for Heart, my aunt donated $1000 to the cause, which, also allowed me to win a ton of prizes; although, as a college student, the prizes seem petty now, looking back I realize she not only gave to a good cause, but helped make a child’s day. Your post reminded me of that time.

Again, it is so nice to see someone so genuine out there and no matter what, I look forward to seeing who the winner is and what lucky cause will receive this donation thanks to your giving spirit.

I’m about six minutes over the deadline now, so I hope that’s still okay, but thank you for such a nice opportunity.

– Christine B.

Project Light to Life http://projectlighttolife.wordpress.com/

$100.00 was donated to the American Heart Association.
To donate go to http://www.heart.org

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Giveaway Results

I want to first start off by thanking all of you for your wonderful support. It is amazing how many great people there are in this world. Your support has truly inspired me on a whole new level. This is why I have decided to change the rules a bit. I had 3 wonderful people email me an idea of where I should donate. They were all great causes recommended by truly good people. They took a few minutes out of their day to reach out to me and also help a cause. They did not really ask for anything in return and it was not about the recognition. They simply just enjoy helping others.

I have decided I will donate $100.00 to each one. The following posts will include the email received from the winners and a picture of the donation (proof).

I wish everyone all the love and positivity in the world.

-trustyourselfblog.com

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Last day for the “Giveaway”

I have an idea. What would happen if I had a giveaway that did not require people to sign up, like or follow a blog. A giveaway with no strings attached. A giveaway just for the sake of giving. Well here we go…

I will donate $100.00 US to a charity or cause of your choice in your name (if the option is available). This will be limited to one person. All I ask from you is a brief explanation why or simply be yourself and send me something truly inspirational. This “giveaway” opportunity starts now and will last until Thursday July 4th 2013. Please no spam or soliciting. You do not need to follow, be a current follower, like anything or comment on anything to win. Just simply email what I have stated above. The winner will be mentioned in my blog and the winning email content will be published to my blog (your full name and email address will not be published unless requested). By sending me an email you are agreeing to these terms. No other company or website is affiliated with this giveaway or liable in anyway.

Email: trustyourselfblog.com@gmail.com

Can’t wait to be inspired by all of you 🙂

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“Giveaway”

I have an idea. What would happen if I had a giveaway that did not require people to sign up, like or follow a blog. A giveaway with no strings attached. A giveaway just for the sake of giving. Well here we go…

I will donate $100.00 US to a charity or cause of your choice in your name (if the option is available). This will be limited to one person. All I ask from you is a brief explanation why or simply be yourself and send me something truly inspirational. This “giveaway” opportunity starts now and will last until Thursday July 4th 2013. Please no spam or soliciting. You do not need to follow, be a current follower, like anything or comment on anything to win. Just simply email what I have stated above. The winner will be mentioned in my blog and the winning email content will be published to my blog (your full name and email address will not be published unless requested). By sending me an email you are agreeing to these terms. No other company or website is affiliated with this giveaway or liable in anyway.

Email: trustyourselfblog.com@gmail.com

Can’t wait to be inspired by all of you 🙂

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“Giveaway”

I have an idea. What would happen if I had a giveaway that did not require people to sign up, like or follow a blog. A giveaway with no strings attached. A giveaway just for the sake of giving. Well here we go…

I will donate $100.00 US to a charity or cause of your choice in your name (if the option is available). This will be limited to one person. All I ask from you is a brief explanation why or simply be yourself and send me something truly inspirational. This “giveaway” opportunity starts now and will last until Thursday July 4th 2013. Please no spam or soliciting. You do not need to follow, be a current follower, like anything or comment on anything to win. Just simply email what I have stated above. The winner will be mentioned in my blog and the winning email content will be published to my blog (your full name and email address will not be published unless requested). By sending me an email you are agreeing to these terms. No other company or website is affiliated with this giveaway or liable in anyway.

Email: trustyourselfblog.com@gmail.com

Can’t wait to be inspired by all of you 🙂

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Pursuing Dreams

Do something fun this weekend or week. Whenever you get a chance to enjoy life take it. As kids we found joy in every little thing. Everything was new and exciting. If things seem boring and tiresome now… Maybe it is time for a change. Follow your goals, but chase your dreams.

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