Life=Mindset=Life

Worrying about something before there is something to worry about. You are basically anticipating the worry. This is how I’ve lived most of my life. Worried about the future events that haven’t happened and may not even happen. I feel this directly relates to being mindful and being grateful. We all know life has its ups and down as well as its many challenges. We may get news we weren’t expecting or did not want to hear. We might miss out on an opportunity or fail at something. I’ve always believed and have been told that’s just life. That is definitely a vague statement, but what if I told you it was also an untrue statement. Things do and may happen that are out of your control. That is a small part of life but it is not life. Life is how you react. How you pick yourself up and deal with it. Life is a mindset. Life is constant growth and work. I’m not saying you can’t be upset or angry with certain situations in life. That is a normal human reaction. We need to feel those emotions and acknowledge those feelings. Just do not let them consume you or define you. You are not your feelings, emotions or hardships. You are you! You are doing the very best you can with the tools you have been given. You just may need to pick up some additional tools and perspective. There is not one tool for every job just as there is not one way to live your life. I invite you to step out of the anticipaworry box. Look around, take a deep breath and think of what you are grateful for in your life. No need to pretend. You can be grateful for something but not necessarily love every part of it. For example, I can not stand the traffic in Southern California and what a waste of time it is. But I am grateful I have a car to drive in that traffic and a job that day to be driving to. Being grateful doesn’t take away or change the fact that I am upset about sitting in traffic. It just changes the conversation in my mind. Once you change the conversation in your mind, you start to change the conversations in your life. Then your life begins to change. That is not the answer but just one tool to help get us through the rougher parts of life.

The Journey

It’s interesting how we make such big life decisions without any real experience and at times on a whim. When we buy a car we maybe drive it once or twice then purchase it. When we buy a home we don’t even get to sleep there before making the biggest purchase of our lives. When we are in our teens or early 20’s we are told to pick a path or a career for the rest of our life. It just seems strange to me that we are supposed to pick our passion/profession at such a young age and just blindly stick the course. As I sit here writing this and honestly feeling anger and dissatisfaction in the way our society works. I start to think… does this really even matter? I feel I’m doing exactly what got us here and is keeping us here. I’m giving away my power, my peace of mind and happiness to a thought and these items which really don’t have anything to do with my quality of life. A car is a car. Although some cars may be more expensive or “nicer” than others, which depends on your perspective. It is still just a tool to get you from point A to point B. Same with a house. Does it really matter as long as you have shelter. A clean and comfortable place called home. Even a job or a career can be changed at any point in your life. With that being said, are we going to let these things or the people around us dictate our quality of life? I say it’s time we took our power and our lives back. It’s time we take a step back, slow down and get back to what’s really important to us. It’s time to do what feels right for you and your family. You can start today by being grateful for the life and the things you do have. Pause, take a breath and just observe the miracle around you. The moment you start treating everything as an opportunity and a gift you will begin to see your life transform around you. Happiness is the journey not the destination.

Father

Being a father is a title I am proud to have. Being a parent in general is truly a blessing. I was recently talking to my wife about how in most relationship you grow to love a person over time. The more experiences and time we share the closer our bond. When it comes to our children the love and bond is instantly there. It is a feeling you can’t quite explain. Maybe because it is so many feelings all at once. For me I experience love, joy, fear and worry daily. The love and joy I have come to know well and rarely acknowledge because those emotions are comfortable for me. The fear and worry are on a whole other level. I try my best to avoid and dismiss these feelings. Lately I have tried a different approach. I allow the fear and worry to be present and I allow myself to be present. Then I ask myself why I am feeling this way and is it truly what’s happening or going to happen. 99% of the time I am just projecting or creating a vivid story in my head. This has been truly life changing, being present and soaking up every moment I can with my daughter really amplifies the joy and love in my life. Next time some uncomfortable feelings come your way try acknowledging them and asking yourself why. You do not have to like these feelings but they are there and they will pass. They just pass easier when we remain present and acknowledge them.

what dreams are made of…

I would like to share some inspirational/ uplifting words from a website called http://www.lightworkers.org that my wonderful mother shared with me.
It really explains and captures all these crazy emotions/feelings we all have been having. Do the work and hold on because what comes next is what dreams are made of.

All Aboard Ship 2013 – No Baggage Allowed

The energy excavation bulldozers have moved in and they mean business! They are going deep down into the depths of our being to clear out any remaining stubborn, emotional gravel. You may be experiencing this as extreme heaviness, then extreme resistance, extreme anger, extreme irritability, extreme impatience, extreme frustration, extreme oh aha lightbulb moment, extreme giddy joy, extreme happiness, extreme gratitude, extreme higher perspective wisdom, followed by oh no more extreme heaviness etc etc. It’s all happening, and it’s happening in no particular order of one emotion running into the other. All you know is that it’s happening, it’s unpredictable, the jackhammer hasn’t stopped drilling in days (weeks? all year?) and you wish it would shoosh up already!! But bless Jack the jackhammer because he is under special orders from the future You that exists in 2013 and beyond: To You and all you know, it’s All Aboard Ship 2013 – No Baggage Allowed.
Whenever we do any major renovation overhaul whether it’s cleaning the garage or demolishing a building, there is always plenty of dust and mess involved. Well so too we are all undergoing our renovation overhauls and likewise we are standing in the midst of plenty of our own dust and mess right now. Actually it’s not all dust and mess, it’s more “Oh wow so much dust, big broom sweep, ooooh ooooh super clear super clean, I see myself clearly now, and boy do I see others clearly, oh I think I’m done shift..oh no, oh no, more dust, oh really? Father stuff again? Really? Really? Okay chat to inner child, polish the mirror, okay that’s better, clear again, wooooh, I’m home freeee….what’s that? Inner feminine wants a word? She has needs? Oh man….sorry, I mean, Oh woman!”
Yep it’s all coming out now, thick and fast. Ready or not. In fact, so thick is this dust and mess and clearing process right now that we are alternating between not being able to see outside ourselves very clearly at all, or anything we do see is being seen through the filter of our dust and mess, and on the other hand seeing others so clearly we feel like they are literally see-through. Then again, we could be seeing them via our dust and mess filter, so we can’t be sure if we’re really seeing them or seeing ourselves through them. It’s all starting to feel like a big dream where we wake up and say “Hey I dreamt there were all these people around me, but then their faces started changing, and I looked around, and everyone was me!.” Strange dream huh…
In this dream that’s actually your life, and in this life that’s actually your dream, (dizzy yet? A LOT of people are with you if you are…literally dizzy that is), your emotions are being triggered and heightened like crazy and you may find yourself responding in a really over the top way to people and situations around you. They may not even be doing anything, but you feel they’re doing something. You think they’re doing something. Or not doing something. Or not doing enough. Either way, it’s really annoying you. If you’re having a good day, you may have stopped yourself before letting them have it, and taken a step back to ask yourself hmmm, what’s really going on here? What you’ll find is that ‘they’ may as well not even exist because really your issue is not with them, it is with yourself. And yourself has taken a trip back from the future to trigger you via someone else not acting how you think they should, or some situation not unfolding as you’d hoped it would, to get you to look at something that needs transforming asap prior to boarding the good ship 2013.
You’ll probably find that it’s an old belief or myth you’ve held about yourself or reality that is not only no longer serving you, it is not compatible with where you’re going and it goes under the ‘no baggage allowed’ category. Just to clarify, when I say we’re all going somewhere and boarding a good ship, I’m not talking about being saved by people from other planets or ascending up into the sky. I’m talking about our vibrational move, our perspective shift, our emotional/spiritual graduation into our next phase of evolution. We’re all aboard the good ship Earth and it’s with her that we’re going wherever we’re going as a transformed humanity. Doubting transformation at this point? Well the thing is, Earth is shifting into a higher vibration, and we all have to shift with her. She’s not really asking us if we’re done with the old reality yet. We’re all along for the ride ready or not!
It is time to stand strong by the reality you know in your heart and cells to be true, for example I am loved, I am always supported, I do receive all that I need, good things are happening, and when you hear that pesky little voice trying to convince you otherwise it is a matter of strength and belief in some greater you to say to the doubting you, “I don’t believe you anymore.” It’s not easy and at first you probably don’t even feel like you really believe that you don’t believe in your doubting self anymore. It’s a daily practice, that becomes habit, that gradually shifts how you feel, that translates into actions, that influences what you attract and how you perceive what you attract, and eventually you find that you do believe it. And as we all know we see what we believe.
That has never been more true than it is now, and that truth is increasing in strength by the day – hence why Jack the jackhammer is being so diligent in his job. As the content of our energy bodies increases in vibration, it increases its ability to be felt by us, and to manifest in our lives as the physical equivalent. So you want to be conscious and aware of the content of your energy bodies, and you want to clear out anything that no longer belongs there. The energy excavation bulldozers are making it easy for us. As challenging as it is to be facing in your face inescapable emotions and situations, it is far more challenging to have to dig for years in the dark to try and work out what your issues might be – as many of us know who spent years digging. The quicker you acknowledge whatever it is they are so obviously shovelling in front of you, the quicker they will move on and leave you with a new clear you.

By Dana Mrkich

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