Without women nothing in this world would be possible or as beautiful. The strength, compassion, love and overall drive is something I have continually experienced from the women I have been so fortunate to have in my life. You are literally creators of life among so many other things. So much power and intuition packed into a human. If you ever feel undervalued or if you are ever treated that way. I want you to know you are so much more. Your value is truly unmeasurable. I take comfort in seeing the changes and progress being made for equality and value in all human beings. It gives me a great sense of hope that my daughter, our children and everyone will have the opportunity to live in this world as one. Coexisting in harmony without the unneeded hate or judgements. But for today cheers to all the amazing women out there and to all the women in my life you are appreciated and loved. Big shout out to my wife for inspiring me daily and holding me to a higher standard of being. You always rock mine and Charlotte’s world as a mama.😘 #internationalwomensday
Although I may not always respond or acknowledge (I’m working on that as well as my communication skills) I truly appreciate and value every response. Whether it is a like or sharing some words. It’s not natural or always easy for me to share. I’ve lived as though I’ve had something to hide for most of my life. Some who have known me longer might say I was very quite or shy. Then through sharing, listening and being vulnerable I’ve learned that a lot of us have similar feelings even if the actual circumstances are different or unique. This has given me and fed the urge to share. With this sharing I do my best to be intentional with my words and with my feelings. I hope to never offend or upset. Rather inspire and promote thoughts or questions. As I said before… the older I get the more questions I have. I believe our lives and the way we live our lives as a society deserves thought and questioning. Not in a way of making wrong or causing hate and upset. But in a way of making conscience choices based on our current level of knowledge. For me the times where I grow is when I obtain or experience a different perspective. A way of looking at something through a different lens. I believe everyone’s perspective has value no matter how offensive, thoughtful or ignorant it may appear. We all have lived through valuable experiences that shaped this perspective. So rather than arguing or just agreeing I invite us all to listen and ask questions so we can better understand each other and grow together. Because honestly no matter what your race, color , religion or belief is. You should take a moment to consider how it is just a miracle and incredible we are all here at this same moment in time.
I always dreamt of having a little girl. Holding her, loving her and raising her. What I did not expect was the profound love I would receive in return. This girl is a lover of all things. Whether you are a person , animal or tree. She gently touches and smells the flowers as she walks by. She gently pets our dog Ziggy and says good boy. She says hello and lovingly touches the trees she encounters. She wraps her arms around your neck squeezing tight and says I love you. She is so deeply and thoughtfully connected with her surroundings. Sometimes I feel as if I’m the one being raised and she is the one to look up to. Her kindness and genuine love constantly remind me of what is true and what is valuable in life. That is just one of the many things my daughter taught me.
Not everything requires action…
Recognize it without judgment. Let it come up an be there. Sometimes you just need to sit with it. If it becomes a theme in your life, there may be something to dig deeper into and uncover the root.
I’ve personally found that just having the awareness to recognize is all you need.
It’s interesting to me how we grow to love people but with our children it’s instant. There isn’t a honeymoon phase or first impression. Just pure and utter love. There is something beautiful about it. It makes me think about love in my life. Whether it’s giving or receiving. I’ve always had a hard time telling people I loved them. It did not mean I did not, it was just uncomfortable for me to get the words out. But like anything the more you do it the easier it gets. Now I make sure to tell people I love them. I feel this unconditional instant love I felt for Charlotte has unlocked something inside me that was always there. It allowed me to be clear on what love is to me and where love is in my life. Which brings me back to… there is something beautiful about it.
At times we may not see eye to eye. We all have had different experiences that have shaped our perspective. I believe everyone’s perspective is valuable. No matter how abrasive or pleasant it may seem. It’s in the listening, asking questions and understanding that we grow as humans. I myself struggle with this daily. My ego flares up and I get angry or just emotionally shut down. There is this need to be right and look as if we know exactly what we are doing at all times. I’m here to tell you it’s okay to not have a plan. It’s okay to not have it all together all the time. We are human beings living a life through the lens(perspective) of our hardships, our joys, our failures and our successes. That should never be discounted but it should be checked constantly by being open to others ideas and ways of seeing the world. Stop what you are doing and close your eyes. Take a deep breath and let it all out. Now imagine you are free to share your perspective without fear of rejection. Imagine you can be open and unafraid of judgement while going through your life. What does that look like? How does it feel? To me it felt like connection, a sense of relief and peace. This isn’t a test and your are encouraged to feel however you feel. I invite you to hold onto that feeling and examine it. Maybe try that in other aspects of your life. Being human isn’t just about being here. It’s about thriving and enjoying this journey we call life. I don’t know nor do I speculate what’s after this life. That’s for everyone to create and decide for themselves. I just want to invite you to make it the best journey you possibly can. Whatever that truly means to you. -Jeffrey
Growing up I was raised by my mom and sister the majority of the time. So I have always had a more sensitive side as well as a respect for women. That sensitivity and respect has been tested over the years. I’m definitely guilty of mistreating and undervaluing women among other people from time to time. It stems from insecurities and honestly just a lack of knowledge/experience. In today’s world we see so much mistreatment not only towards women but towards humanity as a whole. It’s as if we have forgotten that we are all connected and here on this journey together at the same exact time. Coincidence? I believe everything happens for a reason and we can control/guide our futures. At times I feel lost and out of balance. Then I connect with someone, feel grateful and humbled. I know it’s hard to stay awake in life when sometimes it just feels easier to close your eyes. I am here to encourage you to push through and keep your eyes and heart open. This year my wife and I chose words we want to focus and work on. My word for 2018 is vulnerability. Without vulnerability how can we truly connect? How can we truly live? How can we truly thrive? Vulnerability= Connection= Fulfillment
Worrying about something before there is something to worry about. You are basically anticipating the worry. This is how I’ve lived most of my life. Worried about the future events that haven’t happened and may not even happen. I feel this directly relates to being mindful and being grateful. We all know life has its ups and down as well as its many challenges. We may get news we weren’t expecting or did not want to hear. We might miss out on an opportunity or fail at something. I’ve always believed and have been told that’s just life. That is definitely a vague statement, but what if I told you it was also an untrue statement. Things do and may happen that are out of your control. That is a small part of life but it is not life. Life is how you react. How you pick yourself up and deal with it. Life is a mindset. Life is constant growth and work. I’m not saying you can’t be upset or angry with certain situations in life. That is a normal human reaction. We need to feel those emotions and acknowledge those feelings. Just do not let them consume you or define you. You are not your feelings, emotions or hardships. You are you! You are doing the very best you can with the tools you have been given. You just may need to pick up some additional tools and perspective. There is not one tool for every job just as there is not one way to live your life. I invite you to step out of the anticipaworry box. Look around, take a deep breath and think of what you are grateful for in your life. No need to pretend. You can be grateful for something but not necessarily love every part of it. For example, I can not stand the traffic in Southern California and what a waste of time it is. But I am grateful I have a car to drive in that traffic and a job that day to be driving to. Being grateful doesn’t take away or change the fact that I am upset about sitting in traffic. It just changes the conversation in my mind. Once you change the conversation in your mind, you start to change the conversations in your life. Then your life begins to change. That is not the answer but just one tool to help get us through the rougher parts of life.
It’s interesting how we make such big life decisions without any real experience and at times on a whim. When we buy a car we maybe drive it once or twice then purchase it. When we buy a home we don’t even get to sleep there before making the biggest purchase of our lives. When we are in our teens or early 20’s we are told to pick a path or a career for the rest of our life. It just seems strange to me that we are supposed to pick our passion/profession at such a young age and just blindly stick the course. As I sit here writing this and honestly feeling anger and dissatisfaction in the way our society works. I start to think… does this really even matter? I feel I’m doing exactly what got us here and is keeping us here. I’m giving away my power, my peace of mind and happiness to a thought and these items which really don’t have anything to do with my quality of life. A car is a car. Although some cars may be more expensive or “nicer” than others, which depends on your perspective. It is still just a tool to get you from point A to point B. Same with a house. Does it really matter as long as you have shelter. A clean and comfortable place called home. Even a job or a career can be changed at any point in your life. With that being said, are we going to let these things or the people around us dictate our quality of life? I say it’s time we took our power and our lives back. It’s time we take a step back, slow down and get back to what’s really important to us. It’s time to do what feels right for you and your family. You can start today by being grateful for the life and the things you do have. Pause, take a breath and just observe the miracle around you. The moment you start treating everything as an opportunity and a gift you will begin to see your life transform around you. Happiness is the journey not the destination.